‘Do I really need to have sex with a condom on?’

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This, and other frequently asked questions, about safe sex and the necessity of a condom during intercourse.

1 ‘Do I really need to wear condom during sex? I only have sex with my wife.’

While you can certainly have sex without a condom on when you are certain that both you and your partner are committed to each other, wearing it does have a few benefits. First off, both of you must be free of any STDs or STIs, or you will risk infecting each other. Second, you may still be in your childbearing years. If you already have children, or if you don’t want any children at the moment, you might risk an unwanted pregnancy. So sex with a condom makes more sense in case of the latter eventuality.

2 ‘Sex with a condom reduces my pleasure, but my partner insists on it. What should I do?’

Listen to him! Sex with a condom on protects you both against both STDs and pregnancies. Besides, who says condoms reduce pleasure? Ask your partner to try flavoured, textured or extra thin condoms. You no longer need to complain about lack of sensation. You can also try pleasure gels to derive greater satisfaction.

3 ‘I am almost never able to get the right sized condom. What should I do?’

Keep looking. There are premium condom brands that offer a variety of sizes, textures, thickness and sensations. Of course, finding the right condom is a matter of trial and error, and you are better off buying them in your own country than elsewhere – condom companies customise condom sizes as per nationality, so you can find your perfect fit in your country.

4 ‘My partner is on the pill. Do I still need to use a condom?’

The oral contraceptive pill only protects her from unwanted pregnancies. It does not have any effect on preventing the transmission of STDs and STIs. If this is a new partner, you don’t know if she has any STDs or not. She doesn’t know that about you, either. So do the right thing – have sex with a condom on to save both of you from disease.

5 ‘After sex, I found out that the condom had torn. I am terrified about getting pregnant. What should I do?’

If you had sex less than 72 hours ago, you can take an emergency contraceptive pill that will prevent a pregnancy from taking place. You need not worry if you are already on monthly contraception, since the condom is not really needed for contraceptive purposes if you are. If it has been more than 72 hours and you have not taken any contraception, wait for a few days and take a pregnancy test. If the test is positive, you can ask your gynaecologist about your options.